Whether you are a high school senior or currently in college, you’ve been asked that one question! The question that keeps you up at night, the question that everyone wants to know, and the question you don’t even know the answer to yourself. It goes something like this:
“What are you going to school to be?” or “What are you majoring in?”
Obviously it’s a reasonable question for many people to ask, I mean you are going to college for a reason right? It’s a common question you ask when you meet someone new or just having a casual conversation with your friends.
For me, this question for a long time was the most dreaded conversation I could have with anyone. Especially when I went home on breaks, because I work in a grocery store, I see people I haven’t seen in a while, so it was definitely expected and completely understandable. Now you are probably wondering why that would be so dreadful, considering it is such a simple question.
Well if you know me, then you know I think everything through very carefully, I don’t want to mess up, and I always strive to make my parents proud. Since high school, I have always had an interest in broadcasting and public relations. I knew that when I went to college I would major in Communications. The struggle however, was the constant negativity from others and in my own head as well. From high school teachers and customers telling me I needed to do something in the health field, because there weren’t jobs in anything else, to myself thinking I would be a failure if I didn’t major in something that made over $100,000 a year. I ended up convincing myself that the career I needed to choose would have to be in the health field, because it would be reliable and good pay. I decided that the best fit career for me would be dentistry. I liked the idea of running my own practice, helping people, and of course making a good living for myself and my family.
After that decision was made, I went off to college and started out in University Studies and told my advisor and anyone that asked that I was going to double major in Human Nutrition Foods and Exercise and Communications. I soon began to realize that I had no interest in science. I was confused and very unhappy my first year at school. I was homesick and really lost when it came to what I wanted to do with my life. I talked to so many people and was given so much advice from my advisor, my family, my boyfriend, and my friends. I still could not get it through my thick skull that I just needed to do what I truly wanted to do.
My biggest fear is failure in life. The problem was that that fear was holding me back from everything I wanted to do in life and from my happiness. My dream is to be able to live a life where my family and I won’t have to worry about a bill needing to be paid, to be happy and successful in a career I truly love, and to be able to do things I have always wanted to do. I had such a wrong perception of what it takes to fulfill those dreams.
The summer after my freshman year of college, I really just enjoyed being home with my boyfriend and my family. I was able to be happy again, to travel, to think, and to realize a lot of things. I was asked to be the “leading lady” in a little hometown music video for a friend and her group. Now this might sound silly to you, but that experience truly opened my eyes. I had so much fun helping create the idea, the timeline, and just being creative with the whole video. It showed me how much I knew I would love the PR and broadcasting world.
Afterwards, I decided to stop living the way everyone else had told me to and to do the things I wanted to do and go after my own dreams. I decided to ignore the statistics, ignore the salaries, and ignore the negativity. I took the positive advice that was given to me, the lessons I had learned, and now I can honestly say I am the happiest I have ever been. I took that little idea I had during my first semester of college, of having my own beauty, life, and style blog, and went with it. I created my very own YouTube channel and ignored what everyone else would think about it. I wanted to join PRSSA on campus, and I did it. It is amazing what a positive outlook and confidence can do for you.
I am now a Communications with a focus in Public Relations major. I am still taking some science classes to finish a minor, since I already had so many classes completed. I want to take my love and natural talent for hair, makeup, style, and design and share it with anyone who cares. I want to inspire and help people in life in general. When I graduate I have no idea where I will be or what job I will have, but now I am okay with that because I know I will find something I truly love doing. I hope to inspire you to go after what you want in life, to work hard, to dream, and to be confident in your decision when someone asks you that “dreadful” question.
Best advice that helped me, people who encouraged me, and lessons I learned on my own:
• “You absolutely cannot make it about money. Life’s too short for that. Think about how you can serve others in an enjoyable way and do it.”- my brother
• “Money will come if you’re the best at that service.” – my brother
• For prom last year, I did one of my friend’s hair and makeup. While I was there, her dad said “Looks like someone missed their calling.” – Tom Bays. Those words have stuck with me to this day and continue to encourage me.
• Surround Yourself with Positive and Encouraging People:
The three people I seemed to talk to the most about my struggle were my boyfriend Tyler and my two best friends, Bond and Crystal. These three have always encouraged me to go after my dreams. I can’t remember how many times Bond has said “That’s what you’re meant to do.” Those words have always stuck with me, especially when I was having my doubts.